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21 Days!


I have a very bad habit of trying to do things on my own.  Of thinking that my way is better than God’s way.  That it was okay to kinda of put my trust in God, and then try to figure the rest out on my own. Well folks, I have learned that without complete faith in Christ, I am nothing. That I can’t use God as my safety net in times of trouble, but that I actually have to trust in him at all times.

They say it takes 21 days to form new habits.

To show me that there was nobody greater than him, God had to put me through the paces.  People when I say the past month has literally been hell, I speak truth!  There is really no other way to describe it.  I thought I had reached rock bottom, but I found out there is always a new low when you don’t believe, when you put you before him, when you don’t give it all over to Christ, and put you and your family in his hands. Now don’t get me wrong, I never stopped believing and trusting in Christ, but I had pushed him to the perimeter of my life.  I stopped depending on him, and focusing on him and what he had in store for my life.  I became complacent and comfortable in the spot that I was in, thinking we had made it through the storm. Yes, it was rocky, but the boat didn’t tip, we didn’t sink so obviously we were okay.  I believed that we could handle things on our own, that nobody needed to know what we were going through.  Things were spinning out of control, but I couldn’t see it. I could not see that we needed help. Because asking for help meant that you had failed.  So in typically Jacquie behavior, I shut down and in the process I shut people out.  I kept the people who meant the most to me in the dark, not wanting them to judge me, forgetting that they were actually on my side.

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit!

It took hitting the other side of that rock to realize that not only is My God a good outstanding and amazing type of God, but my family is my solid rock and my foundation, that my friends, the ones that have stood by me and shown me what real friendship is, are completely amazing. That my enemies, come in all shapes and sizes, and they are now my footstools. That Satan will keep throwing mess at me and my family but, in return for my faith HE will NEVER leave me alone, that even in my darkest moment, HE is the light at the end of each hallway, framing the doors, opening my heart to what’s in store for me.

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit.

It has taken a world of hurt and disappointment to show me that my family is strong enough to withstand anything life throws at us, if we stay focused on what God has for us. That we have to have each others back.  That having money helps, but it is not going to fix all of my problems.  That if you don’t actually deal with your issues they will keep coming back, and they will keep knocking you down.  That people are going to come into your life and try to destroy you, but just as quickly as they come they will definitely go!  That not everybody is your friend, or has your best interest at heart.  That he will show you who you need in your life!  That everything is not for me and mine and that what mattered the most was right in front of me all along.  That life is hard, but it is a whole lot harder without HIM!

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit.

So I making some changes in my life!  I bringing some new habits into my life.  Praise, gratefulness, prayer, and thankfulness just to name a few.  I am praising God for keeping me, grateful to God for blessing me, praying to God everyday to guide me and remove what is wrong from my life, and thanking God for saving me.  For providing me with new opportunities, for giving me a chance to follow my dreams.  For showing me that I am not in this thing called life alone!

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit!

20 Random Facts About Me

1. I love chocolate, a lot! I mean I eat chocolate almost EVERYDAY!

2. I have tried every random diet known to man, and I probably will try some more!

3. I watch scary movies during the day time, with the lights on, with gospel music playing in the background!

4. I procrastinate on purpose because I believe I work better under pressure.

5. It’s not easy for me to make new friends.

6. Flying terrifies me!

7. My dad drove me to college in Virginia every year for four years! (See number 6)

8. I am paranoid beyond belief that I am going to have a final destination type accident on the highway.

9. I refuse to swim in the deep end of the pool.

10. My favorite color is red.

11. I am addicted to Chap stick/lip-gloss, purses and shoes. (In that order)

12. I met my husband the summer before my junior year of college.

13. I have only dated one other person besides my husband.

14. I was one of two black girls in my high school.

15. I have 11 nieces and nephews.

16. I am ADDICTED to ratchet reality TV.

17. End of Time by Beyoncé is currently my favorite song.

18. I don’t let my kids win on the dance games for the Kinect.

19. My mom thinks I am HILARIOUS! ( I think she may be the only one)

20. Cleaning my house soothes me immensely!

This post was inspired by the super awesome Jen at

She Rocks!

Growing up no matter how hard my mama tried I was not very confident.  I stood out, not because I was sure of myself, but because I was tall, awkward and gangly (or so I thought).  I played the flute in middle school and high school, and I was actually first chair, but if you asked me to play by myself in front of a bunch of  people, (at church, during competitions) I could pretty much guarantee that I would be begging my mama not to make me do it, and when that did not work, I would be the one up there on stage bawling my eyes out while trying to play His Eye Is On the Sparrow on the flute.  No matter how well I did, no matter how many times I did it, it never got any easier for me.

As I got older I gained more confidence, I was the co-captain, then captain of my Pom Squad in high school (shout out to Aurora Christian High School), and in college I was actually a campus tour guide for prospective students at Hampton University. (Rock the Blue & White!)  But while I became more confident in myself and who I could be, I have never been (and probably never will be) completely comfortable in front of crowds. Speaking engagements? I would be sweating my way through them! Speeches for speech class were always rushed, presentations at work, I could not even look the people in the eye!  I just could never get comfortable with all those people looking at me (no matter how cute I happened to be at the moment!) One on one I am personable and charming, standing along in front of an audience, no bueno at all!


Now my baby GurlSHE ROCKS!  She has always been confident in who she was!  She goes for what she wants and keeps going after it until she gets it!  No is not an option for that little girl!  Around Christmas time she tried out for a solo at her school.  She didn’t get it.  It broke her little heart.  There were tears and irate grandparents (ahem), and as her mama I wanted to protect here and give her music teacher a piece of my mind! (Something along the lines of how dare you not see how great my baby is, and you better go back and get your life and give my baby a solo! And so on and so forth). But as a girl who never really learned how do deal with disappointment the correct way, I put my feelings aside and explained to her that she would not get every part she tried out for and that people weren’t always going to see her the way that I did, but if this was something she really wanted she would have to keep trying!


Now if that had been me, chile please you would have never heard me speak of trying out for a solo again!  It would have been dead in the water, along with some tears and an emotional journal entry (yes I was and still am very dramatic)!  But thank God for God that my JadaBear is not me!  When it was time to try out for her Spring Concert, she wrote her own letter, got up there and auditioned again, and guess what! MY BEAR GOT A PART IN A TRIO!!  Trust me when I say I almost did back flips up in the parking lot when she told me!  I have never been prouder!  She has been practicing EVERY SINGLE DAY since then, and listening to her practice and sing her heart out does my mama heart proud!


This little girl right here is everything I ever wanted to be, and yet she is so much more!  Speeches, no problem,  singing in the choir, she’s got it, recitals for her dance company?  She is right there in her sparkly pink outfit and bun shaking her groove thang!!  There is NOTHING, I mean NOTHING this chick can’t do, because I tell her everyday that nothing is out of her reach!  That no matter what obstacle comes her way she can handle it, that she is beautiful, smart and talented (all the things my mama told me but I refused to believe) and that oh yeah, SHE ROCKS!!


The TF Word

This conversation is from dinner last night:

Jason: Momma Jada said a bad word!

Jada: No I didn’t Jason you need to learn to tell the truth!

Jason: Yes you did Jada you said the bad word!

Me: What word did she say Jason?

Jason: The TF word.

Me: Jada why did you say…. Wait…..what? What is the TF word?

Jada: I did not say that word!

Me: Wait! Stop talking Jada! What is the TF word!

Jason: You know the word that Jada said that is the TF word and it is a bad word and she said that to me!

Jada: Jason I did not say that word!

(They are now yelling at each other)

Me: Jason there is no such thing as the TF word and Jada did not say a bad word!

Jason: Mommy yes she did, and I told her to stop and she said that word to me AGAIN!

Me: Okay, both of you stop! Eat your dinner and STOP talking!

Jada: But momma Jason said the D word!

(Now I know a couple of words that start with D and my son has been known to throw out a bad word so I made the mistake of asking….)

Me: Jada what is the D word!

Jada: I don’t want to say it because it is bad, and I don’t want to get in trouble!

Me: If I ask you to tell me something than you are not going to get in trouble….. what is the D word!

Jada: Well….

Jason: I did say that word! But Jada is being a tattletale and that’s wrong!

Me: Jason be quiet….

Jason: I don’t want to get in trouble!

Jada: He said DUH!


Jada: Duh is the D word and he….

Me: Please stop talking right now! Duh is not a bad word, TF is not even a word! Both of you stop talking RIGHT NOW! You both are driving me crazy!

(not even 30 seconds go by)

Jason: Jada being a tattletale is wrong even if I say a bad word!

(I can’t make this stuff up people….it would be too hard!)



6 AM

Mookie: Morning mama, I slept in my own bed.

Me: Good for you baby, go lay down it’s not time to get up yet.

Mookie: Aww man, I not sleepy, it’s 6 o clock in the morning it’s time to get up! (mind you he cannot tell time!)

Me: Get out of my room and go lay down….

Loud stomping…….

Mookie: Peanut butter jelly, peanut butter jelly!

Jada: Get out of my room Jason!

Mookie: Peanut butter jelly, peanut butter jelly! (now he is singing louder and faster!)

Jada: Jason you are being annoying and driving me insane! (where does she learn these words?)

Me: Jason go to your room, and leave her alone!

Mookie: Peanut butter jelly, peanut butter jelly, peanut butter jelly! With a baseball bat! (now he is dancing in the hallway singing at the top of is lungs with his hands in the air!)

Jada: Jason be quiet!

Mookie: Where he at? Where he at? Where he at?


Mookie: There he go! There he go! There he go! (now there is much dancing and booty shaking in and out of me and Jada’s room and up and down the hallway)

Jada: Mommy please make him stop!

Me: Jason!

Mookie: PEANUT BUTTER JELLY ! PEANUT BUTTER JELLY! PEANUT BUTTER JELLY!  (yelling at the top of his lungs while dancing his booty off!)


Mookie: But mommy I LOVE THIS SONG!

ME: Jason it is way to early for all of that!

Mookie: Okay….. peanut butter jelly, peanut butter jelly! (now he is whispering, cause he is considerate and everything!)

Every morning at 6:00 am!

People it is peanut butter jelly time!

I would like to thank Uncle Nate, Uncle Tony and Uncle Jeremy because without them, Mookie would not know all the words to this song!

Mornings with Mookie!

During the summer my niece comes up from Mississippi and stays with my parents. My daughter (JadaBear) packs her bags and moves out of my house, and goes to stay with my parents (who live up the street from us) until her cousin (aka her idol) goes home.  That leaves me at home with my very active, very loud, 3-year-old son.

Every morning without fail this kid gets up and walks into my room before sunrise and says, “Mommy I wake up, and I sleep in my own bed.” (really kid, I’m proud of you but, do I need an announcement every morning?)  Some days he follows it up with a solo on his g’tar (that’s guitar for those of you who don’t speak 3 yr old…He has a guitar that howls so this is always so relaxing.)  Others days he comes in and gets in the bed with me and talks to me and jumps on me until I get up cause he is weally weally humgry! (really hungry) with hands gestures and everything. (he gets his dramatics from his big sister).

The other day he was in rare form. He got up at 3am (he was oh so very cold, and he needed me to put the blanket over his shoulders), 5:30 am (he needed to watch Dora and Bubble Guppies, & could I please change the channels), and 7 am (cause he needs to get up to go see his JadaBear).   When he was finally able to get up out of the bed and play it went a little something like this:

Mookie: Mama can I have that?

Me: What’s that?

Mookie: Come see it’s up there?

Me: You can not have anything off of that shelf it is too loud. (there is a shelf over his dresser mounted to the wall, and there are race cars and trucks up there)

Mookie: Did you say no to me?

Me: Get away from me, please!

Mookie: Mommy you making my head hurt dammit, (yeah he cussed at me) don’t say no to me! (I could not believe what he just said so it took me a minute to stop laughing and to respond.)

Me: What did u say?

Mookie: I don’t know, but I sorry can I have my race car?

Me: No!

My crazy kid stomps back to his room mad and crying, muttering how mama always says no to me….he comes back  five minutes later with the remote control to his race car in his hand! (which was on the shelf above the dresser where he COULD NOT reach it!)

Mookie: Mommy can u get the race car now?

Me: How did you get the remote from up there? (I finally roll out of bed to see what this nut has done!)

Mookie: I threw it up like this (lots of hand gestures and lots of spinning) and it came down.

Me: What? (I have no clue what this boy is talking about, but his room is a HAWT mess!)

Mookie: I threw it (every stuffed animal he had) like this and (more hand gestures and more lots more spinning….I don’t know why) and it came down Mama!

Folks, this kid threw his stuffed animals at the shelf until he was able to push the remote control off of the shelf.

Me: Give me that (snatching the car remote, and trying not to laugh) stop throwing stuff and go sit down somewhere before I hurt you.

Mookie: What? You said no, so I get it myself!

Me: I’m done!

All of this before 8 am? I can’t take it any more, but I gotta give it to the kid, he thought outside the box and he figured out a way to get what he wanted for himself (even if it was the wrong way). I have a feeling that this kid right here,  he is going to be a whole lot of trouble for me, for the rest of my life!

Pray Church, Pray!



My version:
Now I lay me down to sleep
I pray the Lord my soul to keep
If I should die before I wake
I pray the Lord my soul to take

Jada’s version:
Now I laid me down to sheep
I prayed the Lord my soda keep
If I show lie before I wake
I prayed oh lord my soda take


 (at least she is trying)

♥ Jacquie

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